ed）； that all the vices above mentioned were perfectly innocent in themselves： they would still degrade； vilify； and sink those who practiced them； would obstruct their rising in the world by debasing their characters； and give them low turn of mind； and manners absolutely inconsistent with their making any figure in upper life and great business。
What I have now said； together with your own good sense； is； I hope； sufficient to arm you against the seduction； the invitations； or the profligate exhortations （for I cannot call them temptations） of those unfortunate young people。 On the other hand； when they would engage you in these schemes； content yourself with a decent but steady refusal； avoid controversy upon such plain points。 You are too young to convert them； and； I trust； too wise to be converted by them。 Shun them not only in reality； but even in appearance； if you would be well received in good company； for people will always be shy of receiving a man who comes from a place where the plague rages； let him look ever so healthy。 There are some expressions； both in French and English； and some characters； both in those two and in other countries； which have； I dare say； misled many young men to their ruin。 'Une honnete debauche； une jolie debauche； 〃An agreeable rake； a man of pleasure。〃 Do not think that this means debauchery and profligacy； nothing like it。 It means； at most； the accidental and unfrequent irregularities of youth and vivacity； in opposition to dullness； formality； and want of spirit。 A 'commerce galant'； insensibly formed with a woman of fashion； a glass of wine or two too much； unwarily taken in the warmth and joy of good company； or some innocent frolic； by which nobody is injured； are the utmost bounds of that life of pleasure； which a man of sense and decency； who has a regard for his character； will allow himself； or be allowed by others。 Those who transgress them in the hopes of shining； miss their aim； and become infamous； or at least； contemptible。
The length or shortness of your stay at Turin will sufficiently inform me （even though Mr。 Harte should not） of your conduct there； for； as I have told you before； Mr。 Harte has the strictest orders to carry you away immediately from thence； upon the first and least symptom of infection that he discovers about you； and I know him to be too conscientiously scrupulous； and too much your friend and mine not to execute them exactly。 Moreover； I will inform you； that I shall have constant accounts of your behavior from Comte Salmour； the Governor of the Academy； whose son is now here； and my particular friend。 I have； also； other good channels of intelligence； of which I do not apprise you。 But； supposing that all turns out well at Turin； yet； as I propose your being at Rome for the jubilee； at Christmas； I desire that you will apply yourself diligently to your exercises of dancing； fencing； and riding at the Academy； as well for the sake of your health and growth； as to fashion and supple you。 You must not neglect your dress neither； but take care to be 'bien mis'。 Pray send for the best operator for the teeth at Turin； where I suppose there is some famous one； and let him put yours in perfect order； and then take care to keep them so； afterward； yourself。 You had very good teeth； and I hope they are so still； but even those who have bad ones； should keep them clean； for a dirty mouth is； in my mind； ill manners。 In short； neglect nothing that can possibly please。 A thousand nameless little things； which nobody can describe； but which everybody feels； conspire to form that WHOLE of pleasing； as the several pieces of a Mosaic work though； separately； of little beauty or value； when properly joined； form those beautiful figures which please everybody。 A look； a gesture； an attitude； a tone of voice； all bear their parts in the great work of pleasing。 The art of pleasing is more particularly necessary in your intended profession than perhaps in any other； it is； in truth； the first half of your business； for if you do not please the court you are sent to； you will be of very little use to the court you are sent from。 Please the eyes and the ears； they will introduce you to the heart； and nine times in ten； the heart governs the understanding。
Make your court particularly； and show distinguished attentions to such men and women as are best at court； highest in the fashion； and in the opinion of the public； speak advantageously of them behind their backs； in companies whom you have reason to believe will tell them again。 Express your admiration of the many great men that the House of Savoy has produced； observe that nature； instead of being exhausted by those efforts； seems to have redoubled them； in the person of the present King； and the Duke of Savoy； wonder； at this rate； where it will end； and conclude that it must end in the government of all Europe。 Say this； likewise； where it will probably be repeated； but say it unaffectedly； and； the last especially； with a kind of 'enjouement'。 These little arts are very allowable； and must be made use of in the course of the world； they are pleasing to one party； useful to the other； and injurious to nobody。
What I have said with regard to my countrymen in general； does not extend to them all without exception； there are some who have both merit and manners。 Your friend； Mr。 Stevens； is among the latter； and I approve of your connection with him。 You may happen to meet with some others； whose friendship may be of great use to you hereafter； either from their superior talents； or their rank and fortune； cultivate them； but then I desire that Mr。 Harte may be the judge of those persons。
Adieu my dear child！ Consider seriously the importance of the two next years to your character； your figure； and your fortune。
LETTER LXXI
LONDON； May 22； O。 S。 1749。
DEAR BOY： I recommended to you； in my last； an innocent piece of art； that of flattering people behind their backs； in presence of those who； to make their own court； much more than for your sake； will not fail to repeat and even amplify the praise to the party concerned。 This is； of all flattery； the most pleasing； and consequently the most effectual。 There are other； and many other； inoffensive arts of this kind； which are necessary in the course of the world； and which he who practices the earliest； will please the most； and rise the soonest。 The spirits and vivacity of youth are apt to neglect them as useless； or reject them as troublesome。 But subsequent knowledge and experience of the world reminds us of their importance； commonly when it is too late。 The principal of these things is the mastery of one's temper； and that coolness of mind； and serenity of countenance； which hinders us from discovering by words； actions； or even looks； those passions or sentiments by which we are inwardly moved or agitated； and the discovery of which gives cooler and abler people such infinite advantages over us； not only in great business； but in all the most common occurrences of life。 A man who does not possess himself enough to hear disagreeable things without visible marks of anger and change of countenance； or agreeable ones； without sudden bursts of joy and expansion of countenance； is at the mercy of every artful knave or pert coxcomb； the former will provoke or please you by design； to catch unguarded words or looks by which he will easily decipher the secrets of your heart； of which you should keep the key yourself； and trust it with no man living。 The latter will； by his absurdity； and without intending it； produce the same discoveries of which other people will avail themselves。 You will say； possibly； that this coolness must be constitutional； and consequently does not depend upon the will： and I will allow that constitution has some power over us； but I will maintain； too； that people very often； to excuse themselves； very unjustly accuse their constitutions。 Care and reflection； if properly used； will get the better： and a man may as surely get a habit of letting his reason prevail over his constitution； as of letting； as most people do； the latter prevail over the former。 If you find yourself subject to sudden starts of passion or madness （for I see no difference between them but in their duration）； resolve within yourself； at least； never to speak one word while you feel that emotion within you。 Determine； too； to keep your countenance as unmoved and unembarrassed as possible； which steadiness you may get a habit of； by constant attention。 I should desire nothing better； in any negotiation； than to have to do with one of those men of warm； quick passions； which I would take care to set in motion。 By artful provocations I would extort rash unguarded expressions； and； by hinting at all the several things that I could suspect； infallibly discover the true one； by the alteration it occasioned in the countenance of the person。 'Volto sciolto con pensieri stretti'； is a most useful maxim in business。 It is so necessary at some games； such as 'Berlan Quinze'； etc。； that a man who had not the command of his temper and countenance； would infallibly be outdone by those who had； even though they played fair。 Whereas； in business； you always play with sharpers； to whom； at least； you should give no fair advantages。 It may be objected； that I am now recommending dissimulation to you； I both own and justify it。 It has been long said； 'Qui nescit dissimulare nescit regnare'： I go still further； and say； that without some dissimulation no business can be carried on at all。 It is SIMULATION that is false； mean； and criminal： that is the cunning which Lord Bacon calls crooked or left… handed wisdom； and which is never made use of but by those who have not true wisdom。 And the same great man says； that dissimulation is only to hide our own cards； whereas simulation is put on； in order to look into other people's。 Lord Bolingbroke； in his 〃Idea of a Patriot King；〃 which he has lately published； and which I will send you by the first opportunity； says very justly that simulation is a STILETTO；not only an unjust but an unlawful weapon； and the use of it very rarely to be excused； never justified。 Whereas dissimulation is a shield