separateness for me。 I’ve got to learn how to love unconditionally without
demands。”
When people are emotionally upset and they continually tell themselves
alienating things； they program themselves directly into neurosis or psychosis。
When you are emotionally upset and use this opportunity to program yourself
with the positive ways of Living Love； you wipe out vulnerabilities you
programmed in the past。
To summarize： when you are upset； it is vital that you be extremely precise in
putting the blame for your unhappiness exactly where it belongs。 Your
problems are not in the outside world。 They are an interaction between your
inside programming and the here and now realities of your body； mind； and
the people and situations outside you。 Since the outside realities are only
minimally changeable by you； your happiness depends on your concentrating
on changing what you can change your emotional programming that
automatically makes you uptight when the world does not live up to your
expectations。 Seize every moment of anger； resentment； worry； frustration；
anxiety； jealousy； or fear as a precious opportunity to start talking straight to
yourself； so that you will no longer get uptight no matter what happens in the
world around you。
Find the phrases and thoughts that generate the strongest emotions
when you are upset。
If you wish to use the Method of Consciousness Focusing to get free for your
lifetime from an addictive program； it is important to search for all of the
phrases and thoughts that intensify your turbulent feelings。 Force yourself to
experience your emotions in the strongest way。 Tell yourself； for example；
“I’m sick and tired of getting angry all the time。 It’s hell to be an automatic
robot that stupidly triggers these silly emotional binges。 I want to be free of
all this idiocy。 It’s silly for me to be smothered by all this。”
Be specific。 For example； if jealousy is your problem； tell yourself； “I don’t
want to be trapped in jealous feelings ever again。” Get into the trapped
feeling and keep hunting for phrases that trigger strong feelings。 When you
find a phrase that intensifies your feelings and makes you cry； keep repeating
it over and over until it no longer brings a response。 Find other phrases and
wear them out。 Then go back to test again their ability to trigger strong
emotions。
Remember； you must really want to do it。 When you reprogram； don’t
hesitate to yell to yourself； to beat a pillow； to clench your fists and teeth； to
pound on a bed or table； or do anything else that gives notice to your ego and
your rational mind that you are firmly determined to change your
programming。 Remember that many of these addictions have been operating
in your bioputer for ten； twenty； thirty or more years； and it is going to
take a lot of determination and work on your part to get them reprogrammed
so that you are no longer automatically irritated by certain situations。
It is important to use reprogramming phrases which “feel right” to you。
Reprogramming phrases should represent new insights you have gained while
examining yourself and the situation which you found upsetting。 By using the
Pathways or the Centers of Consciousness； you may e to realize； for
instance； that being criticized is not really a threat to you or harmful in any
way。 You may begin to perceive criticism as valuable feed back which may
help you improve your performance。 To reinforce this new attitude toward
criticism and make it a permanent part of your programming； it is valuable to
reprogram yourself with such phrases as “Criticism is really useful； not
harmful” or “I can wele criticism” or “I don’t need to get defensive
when someone criticizes me。”
If you use reprogramming phrases that don’t “feel right” or that you do not
consciously believe； you may find yourself experiencing increased resistance
as you use the phrase。 Instead of feeling relieved； free； and more confident as
you reprogram yourself； you may feel increasingly tense and upset。 If so； it is
best to listen to the arguments your mind is ing up with in opposition to
the reprogramming phrase and use the other methods or repeat the procedure
on pages 98 and 99 （A LIFE SAVER） to get additional insights。 It may be
you are not ready to drop a certain demand。 You might change the
reprogramming phrase slightly into one that feels more appropriate to you。
thus if “I don’t have to have a lover” doesn’t feel right； you might try “I don’t
need so…and…so to be happy” or “I don’t need to feel hurt when I’m not with
so…and…so。”
Don’t get ahead of yourself into a phony space。 Wait until you really feel
ready to drop a demand or an unconstructive way of reacting to a situation。
When you realize you don’t really need something you thought you needed；
you will find it easier to drop the addictive demand for it。 When you have
clearly seen the absurdity of your old programming； effective reprogramming
phrases will spontaneously e to you。
Here are some sample reprogramming instructions to your bioputer that
you might find helpful：
“Life is my teacher。”
“I am not my addictive programming。”
“I am lovable。”
“I am the master of my life。”
“I don’t need to control people。”
“I can accept what is。”
“I don’t need other people’s approval。”
“It’s okay to make a mistake。”
“It’s okay to be me。”
“I don’t need to hide。”
“I have nothing to fear。”
“I can let go and just be。”
“I love myself。”
“It’s okay to make a fool of myself in public。”
“Rational mind stop sending me that stuff。”
“I am enough。”
“I accept my here and now。”
“I don’t have to reject myself when I （whichever applies） am angry； make a
mistake； feel jealous； am not loving。”
“It’s OK to be right where I am。”
“I am getting free。”
“I don’t have to be a robot。”
“I don’t have to be uptight when this happens。”
“I don’t have to get caught up in his/her programming。”
“I can love him/her just the way he/she is。”
“It’s all US。”
“I don’t need （whichever applies） outside acceptance； approval； respect； love；
special attention； romantic love； close relationships； to control； to manipulate；
to be addicted； to be afraid。”
Make up your own phrases to fit your situation。 As you bee expert in
reprogramming； you may be surprised by its effectiveness。 With persistence
and determination； you can reprogram all of your addictions no matter how
long…standing or how strong they are。
In one Consciousness Focusing session you cannot wipe out all your
undesired programming from the past years because you are usually upset
about only one thing at a time。 You can only reprogram that which is making
you upset here and now。 So talk specifically to yourself only about the
problem that is making you feel bad right now。 Suppose you relied on
someone to help you and he forgot to do what he had agreed to do。 You have
made yourself angry。 Now talk to yourself specifically about that situation： “I
don’t have to feel angry when I feel people aren’t meeting agreements。” “I
don’t need to put myself through all of this turmoil。” “People don’t have to
live up to my models。” “I can enjoy what I do have。”
Talk very precisely to yourself； for the feelings you experience when you are
upset are the feelings that will be programmed in some degree into your
future。 Say things like； “I can reprogram this addiction。 I don’t need to get
uptight over this situation。 It’s just my programming that is making me
uptight。 I can change that programming。 That programming doesn’t serve me
in any way。 I don’t need it for anything。 I don’t need to hold on to that
emotional reaction。 Love is more important。 I am creating this suffering in
my mind。 It’s all in my mind。”
As a way of exploring your suffering （Step 1）；
you may wish to consciously play out your old programming。
It is helpful to distinguish between discharging old programming and creating
new programming。 When you consciously relive a disturbing situation and
scream； “I hate you； I hate you！” with the full intention of getting rid of such
garbage from your mind； you are not reinforcing negative programming； you
are freeing yourself from it。 Whenever your ego and rational mind
automatically justify a negative emotion； you tend to perpetuate it。 But when
you re…live a disturbing situation and consciously discharge the emotions for
the purpose of getting rid of them； you help free yourself from the addictive
programming。 Your bioputer may receive new； constructive programming
more readily when the old programming has been consciously run through
and seen as unnecessary。 The conscious discharge of addictive programming
can generate energy that may be useful in getting ready for Consciousness
Focusing。
It may be helpful to re…experience what you were telling yourself that caused
you to generate these separating emotions。 You might have created fear by
telling yourself； “It would be terrible if I failed this exam。” Sorrow might
have been created by telling yourself； “I can’t bear to live without Jane。 I feel
all alone。” Anger is generated by thoughts like； “He has no right to treat me
that way。 Who does he think I am？” You can fully re…live the situation by
expressing all these emotion generating statements with full intensity while at
the same time clearly realizing that you are merely discharging old
programming （like dumping out the garbage）。 The game is to see through it
and develop new and better ways of responding to such situations。
Build up the voltage of your emotional responses。
The effective use of the Method of Consciousness Focusing requires you to
generate the strongest emotions that you can。 Do everything you can to
increase the electrochemical voltage of your emotional response。 Most of
your addictions were programmed into you through suffering and pain。 One
way to reprogram them is to use the tension that is associated with your
stronger feelings。 You may be able to get rid of a strong lifetime addiction in
a short time if； and only if； you can build up your emotional intensity。 If
you cannot get into your emotions strongly and continuously； it may take
months or years to reprogram the