every second of your life。 Happiness is there waiting inside of you and it
bees more available every time you reprogram one of your addictions。
Chapter 20
Living Love With Children
A child can be a great teacher in your journey toward higher consciousness。
A young child can give you a continuous demonstration of what it is like to
live in the here and now before the rational mind affects the stream of
consciousness。 A child can turn its consciousness fully and spontaneously to
each new life situation。 When denied something that it wants； it may respond
with an ego trip by crying。 But one minute later； it can turn its attention to the
here…and…now situation that life offers and be joyous and laughing again。
Thus the consciousness of an infant does not grasp situations and churn them
with the rational mind。
Children are very sensitive mirrors of your consciousness level。 When they
are surrounded by peaceful； loving people； they reflect a warm； flowing state
most of the time。 When they are surrounded by driven； other…directed；
manipulating people； they rapidly reflect this tension and uptightness in their
behavior。
Your level of consciousness determines your world。 If you live in a world of
fears and anxiety； you will pull the lower consciousness people around you
into your psychic space。 If your consciousness largely operates on the Power
Center； any child with whom you continually interact will be pulled into your
subject…object type of non…caring manipulations。 If your responses to your
child continually show loving thoughtfulness and acceptance of your child as
an individual； this will be reflected in the child’s consciousness。
You head creates your child。 If you view your child as awkward； you will
create an awkward child。 If you view your child as an interference to your
important daily activities； you will create exactly this type of child。 The
images and classifications through which you perceive a child will be
sensitively picked up by the child and will play a large part in how he reacts
to you。
The people who interact continually with a young child determine the nature
and strength of the future addictions that he or she must uplevel to
preferences to grow into higher consciousness。 When a child is around highly
dominating people； a large portion of his energy will remain preoccupied with
the Power Center of Consciousness。 Upon reaching maturity； the adult will
regard power as the key to happiness in the world。 The child will have been
bruised by uncaring； “Shut up； be quiet； and do exactly as I say” subjectobject
manipulation。 The child will feel that happiness correlates with the
amount of personal power and prestige one can use to dominate and control
the people and situations in one’s life。 A child who is around flowing； higher
consciousness people （who regard the child’s needs as they would their own）
will easily grow into the Love Center of Consciousness。 With ing
adulthood； he or she will have a life style that is characterized by
harmoniously flowing with the here…and…now situations of life。 The child will
know deep in his or her being that love and expanded consciousness will
always bring whatever is needed for happiness。
If you observe the interaction between most adults and children from the
point of view of the Security Center； Sensation Center； and Power Center of
Consciousness； you will feel passion for the robot…like behavior that has
ensnared both the child and the adult。 The consciousness of the adult will
tend to magnify most of the actions of the child as threats to the adult’s
security； sensation； or power。 Since children mirror our consciousness； this
leads the child to develop strong addictive programming on the first three
levels。 The developing being will have heavy psychological obstacles that
must be reprogrammed to permit growth into the Love Center and
Cornucopia Center。 No one can progress to these higher centers as long as he
or she feels that happiness is just a matter of having enough security； sex；
money； prestige； and power！
We create security； sensation； and power addictions in children when we try
to dominate them with such emotional demands as “I’ve told you a thousand
times to。。。 What is the matter with you？。。。 Don’t you ever listen？。。。 I’ve
never seen a dumber。。。 For the last time； I want you to get this straight。。。 Just
do that once more and。。。” As Dr。 Haim Ginott says； “Our ‘normal’ talk drives
children crazy： the blaming and shaming； preaching and moralizing； accusing
and guilt…giving； ridiculing and belittling； threatening and bribing； evaluating
and labeling。” Watch how you feel when people talk to you in such heavily
dualistic ways。
We should replace our alienating； criticizing words with “I” language。
Instead of； “You are a liar and no one can trust you；” say； “I don’t like it
when I can’t rely on your words it is difficult for us to do things together。”
You talk only about your exact feelings here and now。 You don’t chew over
the past or threaten future punishments。 You skip the disparaging pseudoanalysis
of the child’s character based on your addictive ego demands。
How do you use the experience of being with a child to aid you in your
growth toward higher consciousness？ The child can help you develop an
awareness of what an “unfurnished” mind is like。 When a child is first born；
he does not chew over situations with his rational mind。 He is just totally
right here right now。 You can observe in a very young infant some （but
definitely not all） of the characteristics of higher consciousness。 A child is
usually very perceptive in picking up the true feelings and vibrations of those
around him。 The nervous system of a young child is heavily programmed for
crying and other emotional behaviors that can dominate the consciousness of
adults within earshot so that they will be aware of his or her needs。 As fellow
travelers on the road to higher consciousness； we should see our adult roles
as loving and serving every child。 This helps the child to make a rapid
transition from crying and other emotional behavior to a programming that
permits meeting needs through love and expanded consciousness。
The creation of a heaven on earth in which everyone lives in a world free of
wars； misunderstanding； and duality on every level requires that we no longer
train our children to develop intense security； sensation； and power
addictions。 It is easy to blame the problems of the world on governments；
schools； and uncaring economic institutions； but this is only an evasion。 All
of these institutions are us。 The non…loving； subject…object actions of all of
these institutions have been created and are maintained by addictions that we
have acquired。 Even the polarity of our addictive opposition may strengthen
what we may wish to change！
The only effective and permanent way to change the world in which we live
is to change our level of consciousness。 And one of the best ways to repair
the strong addictive programming that has been conditioned into our
bioputer is to interact with children。 We can save them from the suffering
that would await them if they were to develop heavily programmed power
addictions and demands。 In return； we will benefit by being reminded of
what it is like to live in the here and now； to enjoy a consciousness that is not
continually churned up by the rational mind； and to benefit by the mirror
which the child provides to enable us to see our own addictions。
Your life will give you continual opportunities to show the child （and
yourself） whether you are on a power level of consciousness or a love level of
consciousness。 Every glass of milk that the child spills enables you to show
him the world in which your Conscious…awareness lives。 Do you say （or even
silently feel）； “I’ve told you a thousand times to be more careful。 The next
time you spill a glass of milk you are going to stand in the corner for one
hour。 I’m sick and tired of your clumsy carelessness。 It’s about time you
listened to me。 Why don’t you get that rag and clean it up？ Are you
helpless？” If so； you will be training the child to dominate his consciousness
by security； sensation； and power addictions。 And since your consciousness
creates your universe through these filters； you will live in a subject…object
world in which your inner serenity is constantly threatened by the acts of the
child。 You are simply using the spilled milk to create heavier and heavier
low…consciousness programming for both of you。 And a low…consciousness
life is full of spilled milk in one form or another。
When a child spills the milk； you could wele it as an opportunity to help
both of you grow into higher consciousness。 You can say to yourself； “The
milk is spilled right here； right now。 Fussing about it won’t unspill the
milk。 It will simply irritate both myself and the child。 An upset child may
unconsciously knock over another glass。 I’ve knocked over glasses hundreds
of times。 This is just a normal part of living。 The immature muscle control of
a child increases the probability of spilled milk。 But even now as an adult I
sometimes spill things。 So we’re losing a few ounces of milk； but that’s
absolutely no reason to lose our love and serenity。” And you keep on talking
about whatever you were saying before the milk was spilled。 It should be
cleaned up as a usual thing to do。 You don’t need to head…trip the child by
saying such things as； “That’s all right； everybody spills milk；” unless the
feelings of the child call for further words。 You convey those thoughts by
your loving； flowing acceptance of the spilled milk and your simple； natural
cleaning…up actions。
After spilling the milk； the child will be very sensitive to your feelings and
will pick up any paranoia or antagonism in your consciousness even though
you may be very sweet and tactful in your words。 If you can really accept the
spilled milk （as well as other non…preferred happenings in your life） and
permit your consciousness to flow in a here…and…now loving way； there will
be very little “spilled milk” in your life。 But if your consciousness gets
caught up in one incident after another that involves y