ong inculcating into you upon these points。 How happy am I； and how happy are you； my dear child； that these Titian tints； and Guido graces； are all that you want to complete my hopes and your own character！ But then； on the other hand； what a drawback would it be to that happiness； if you should never acquire them？ I remember； when I was of age； though I had not near so good an education as you have； or seen a quarter so much of the world； I observed those masterly touches and irresistible graces in others； and saw the necessity of acquiring them myself； but then an awkward 'mauvaise honte'； of which I had brought a great deal with me from Cambridge； made me ashamed to attempt it； especially if any of my countrymen and particular acquaintances were by。 This was extremely absurd in me： for； without attempting； I could never succeed。 But at last； insensibly； by frequenting a great deal of good company； and imitating those whom I saw that everybody liked； I formed myself； 'tant bien que mal'。 For God's sake； let this last fine varnish； so necessary to give lustre to the whole piece； be the sole and single object now of your utmost attention。 Berlin may contribute a great deal to it if you please； there are all the ingredients that compose it。
'A Propos' of Berlin； while you are there； take care to seem ignorant of all political matters between the two courts； such as the affairs of Ost Frise； and Saxe Lawemburg； etc。； and enter into no conversations upon those points； but； however； be as well at court as you possibly can； live at it； and make one of it。 Should General Keith offer you civilities； do not decline them； but return them； however； without being 'enfant de la maison chez lui'： say 'des chores flatteuses' of the Royal Family； and especially of his Prussian Majesty； to those who are the most like to repeat them。 In short； make yourself well there； without making yourself ill SOMEWHERE ELSE。 Make compliments from me to Algarotti； and converse with him in Italian。
I go next week to the Bath； for a deafness； which I have been plagued with these four or five months； and which I am assured that pumping my head will remove。 This deafness； I own； has tried my patience； as it has cut me off from society； at an age when I had no pleasures but those left。 In the meantime； I have； by reading and writing； made my eyes supply the defect of my ears。 Madame H…； I suppose； entertained both yours alike； however； I am very glad that you were well with her； for she is a good 'proneuse'； and puffs are very useful to a young fellow at his entrance into the world。
If you should meet with Lord Pembroke again； anywhere； make him many compliments from me； and tell him that I should have written to him； but that I knew how troublesome an old correspondent must be to a young one。 He is much commended in the accounts from Hanover。
You will stay at Berlin just as long as you like it； and no longer； and from thence you are absolutely master of your own motions； either to The Hague； or to Brussels； but I think that you had better go to The Hague first； because that from thence Brussels will be in your way to Calais； which is a much better passage to England than from Helvoetsluys。 The two courts of The Hague and Brussels are worth your seeing； and you will see them both to advantage； by means of Colonel Yorke and Dayrolles。 Adieu。 Here is enough for this time。
LETTER CLXXVIII
LONDON； September 26； 1752
MY DEAR FRIEND： As you chiefly employ； or rather wholly engross my thoughts； I see every day； with increasing pleasure； the fair prospect which you have before you。 I had two views in your education； they draw nearer and nearer； and I have now very little reason to distrust your answering them fully。 Those two were； parliamentary and foreign affairs。 In consequence of those views； I took care； first； to give you a sufficient stock of sound learning； and next； an early knowledge of the world。 Without making a figure in parliament； no man can make any in this country； and eloquence alone enables a man to make a figure in parliament； unless； it be a very mean and contemptible one； which those make there who silently vote； and who do 'pedibus ire in sententiam'。 Foreign affairs； when skillfully managed； and supported by a parliamentary reputation； lead to whatever is most considerable in this country。 You have the languages necessary for that purpose； with a sufficient fund of historical and treaty knowledge； that is to say； you have the matter ready； and only want the manner。 Your objects being thus fixed； I recommend to you to have them constantly in your thoughts； and to direct your reading； your actions； and your words； to those views。 Most people think only 'ex re nata'； and few 'ex professo'： I would have you do both； but begin with the latter。 I explain myself： Lay down certain principles； and reason and act consequently from them。 As； for example； say to yourself； I will make a figure in parliament； and in order to do that； I must not only speak； but speak very well。 Speaking mere common sense will by no means do； and I must speak not only correctly but elegantly； and not only elegantly but eloquently。 In order to do this； I will first take pains to get an habitual； but unaffected； purity； correctness and elegance of style in my common conversation； I will seek for the best words； and take care to reject improper； inexpressive； and vulgar ones。 I will read the greatest masters of oratory； both ancient and modern； and I will read them singly in that view。 I will study Demosthenes and Cicero； not to discover an old Athenian or Roman custom； nor to puzzle myself with the value of talents； mines； drachms； and sesterces； like the learned blockheads in us； but to observe their choice of words； their harmony of diction； their method； their distribution； their exordia； to engage the favor and attention of their audience； and their perorations； to enforce what they have said； and to leave a strong impression upon the passions。 Nor will I be pedant enough to neglect the modern； for I will likewise study Atterbury； Dryden； Pope； and Bolingbroke； nay； I will read everything that I do read in that intention； and never cease improving and refining my style upon the best models； till at last I become a model of eloquence myself； which； by care； it is in every man's power to be。 If you set out upon this principle； and keep it constantly in your mind； every company you go into； and every book you read； will contribute to your improvement； either by showing you what to imitate； or what to avoid。 Are 。you to give an account of anything to a mixed company？ or are you to endeavor to persuade either man or woman？ This principle； fixed in your mind； will make you carefully attend to the choice of your words； and to the clearness and harmony of your diction。
So much for your parliamentary object； now to the foreign one。
Lay down first those principles which are absolutely necessary to form a skillful and successful negotiator； and form yourself accordingly。 What are they？ First； the clear historical knowledge of past transactions of that kind。 That you have pretty well already； and will have daily more and more； for； in consequence of that principle； you will read history； memoirs； anecdotes； etc。； in that view chiefly。 The other necessary talents for negotiation are： the great art of pleasing and engaging the affection and confidence； not only of those with whom you are to cooperate； but even of those whom you are to oppose： to conceal your own thoughts and views； and to discover other people's： to engage other people's confidence by a seeming cheerful frankness and openness； without going a step too far： to get the personal favor of the king； prince； ministers； or mistresses of the court to which you are sent： to gain the absolute command over your temper and your countenance； that no heat may provoke you to say； nor no change of countenance to betray； what should be a secret： to familiarize and domesticate yourself in the houses of the most considerable people of the place； so as to be received there rather as a friend to the family than as a foreigner。 Having these principles constantly in your thoughts； everything you do and everything you say will some way or other tend to your main view； and common conversation will gradually fit you for it。 You will get a habit of checking any rising heat； you will be upon your guard against any indiscreet expression； you will by degrees get the command of your countenance； so as not to change it upon any the most sudden accident； and you will； above all things； labor to acquire the great art of pleasing； without which nothing is to be done。 Company is； in truth； a constant state of negotiation； and； if you attend to it in that view； will qualify you for any。 By the same means that you make a friend； guard against an enemy； or gain a mistress； you will make an advantageous treaty； baffle those who counteract you； and gain the court you are sent to。 Make this use of all the company you keep； and your very pleasures will make you a successful negotiator。 Please all who are worth pleasing； offend none。 Keep your own secret； and get out other people's。 Keep your own temper and artfully warm other people's。 Counterwork your rivals； with diligence and dexterity； but at the same time with the utmost personal civility to them； and be firm without heat。 Messieurs d'Avaux and Servien did no more than this。 I must make one observation； in confirmation of this assertion； which is； that the most eminent negotiators have allways been the politest and bestbred men in company； even what the women call the PRETTIEST MEN。 For God's sake； never lose view of these two your capital objects： bend everything to them； try everything by their rules； and calculate everything for their purposes。 What is peculiar to these two objects； is； that they require nothing； but what one's own vanity； interest； and pleasure； would make one do independently of them。 If a man were never to be in business； and always to lead a private life； would he not desire to please and to persuade？ So that； in your two destinations； your fortune and figure luckily conspire with your vanity and your pleasures。 Nay more；